Pondering the South African Memesphere – Looking for the Good in Everything header image 2


January 28th, 2007 · Posted by Hugo · 3 Comments

Ever notice how often couples look a little like one another? Or they have certain “features” (in terms of looks) in common? One possible theory is that people get used to their own looks, and consider themselves “good looking”, then when they recognize their own features in someone else, that person is good looking to them.

So now, my question: was this less the case before people had mirrors and cameras? When people did not see themselves often, did couples not look so much “alike”? 😉

Categories: Culture

3 responses so far ↓

  • 1 stefan // Jan 29, 2007 at 12:53 am

    The path may even be more convoluted than that. Many say that guys like girls who in some way resemble their mothers. That would also explain the matching traits, with or without the presence of mirrors and cameras.

  • 2 Hugo // Jan 29, 2007 at 10:17 am

    Excellent point! That would explain it all, no need for genetically encoded preferences (which was suggested/discussed in facebook comments). Imagine not the typical couple photos, but photos with the groom’s mother and wife.

  • 3 Auke // Feb 1, 2007 at 2:40 am

    Regarding looks, and what one sees in someone else, a pretty well replicated finding is that people tend to seek out mates they deem about as attractive as themselves. No point in Joe Average going for the supermodel (waste of resources) or the hag (you could do better).
    The tricky thing is, though, that Joe chooses a mate based on his *perception* of himself. So a hot bloke may pair up with a nighthag, because he reckons he has a good chance with her (where ‘hot’ and ‘hag’ are based on norms for that culture/group).
    There’s thus about as much chance as couples looking like each other, as a dog owner looking like her dog. It’s all in the beholder.

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